Monthly Archives: February 2006

You are My Sunshine


You are My Sunshine
Originally uploaded by Jason Archer.

The past two weeks have been a whirlwind for Grace emotionally. Over a month ago she received an invitation for us to go to the “Dad and Daughter Dance”, a PTA fundraiser. I have to be careful of what I say about this because I know Grace reads this and other educators do too. But this is my blog, so if you don’t agree, read elsewhere! (insert 5th amendment nod)

Anyway, this dance is pretty lame. Pathetic, in fact. But the heart behind it is a daughter getting dressed up with her dad, eating out, and dancing. Probably every little girl’s dream. And it is my Gracie’s too.

Well, last week she came home conflicted. She was invited to a birthday party that was on the same night as the dance. Something I was less than enthusiastic about going. More excited to be with Grace and less about where we were going to be spending time. She wanted to go to both. She was torn. We had a talk last week in bed and she told me that she wanted to go to Lexi’s birthday party so bad but she didn’t want to disappoint me. She was so worked up about it that she was crying. I hugged her up real good and reassured her that I would not be disappointed, she could go to the party, and we would do something special together later. So we did.

This Saturday we spent the better part of the day on a special adventure. We went to “Piece of Mine” near Lansing. She said she didn’t want to know where we were going but for it to be a surprise. So I took her to “ING Credible”. Not so much. We then went over to Beaners and I got Grace a special white hot chocolate with caramel. She thought it was so high-end that she got a gourmet drink. We then went to “Pieces”.

Piece of Mine is a pottery shop you make stuff at. Find something you like, color it, and come back a week later after it’s been fired. It’s really cool. And right up our girl’s alley. (I started calling her “Craftmatic” lately).

After surveying what to paint, Grace picked out, what else, a CONTAINER. Actually, it was a bank with a moon on one side and sun on the other. Turns out we just spent probably more than an hour painting it together and talking. It was really cool. She was loving it. And I really cherish those times as well. You can totally tell after times like these that she feels like her tank is filled up. Anyway, we headed home together excited to see what it will look like next week. It’s cabin weekend with the fellas and I’m going to pick it up on my way home. Bottom line: Time is the most important thing. And this kind of time is soooo much better than the dance. Plus, have any of you ever seen me dance? EXACTLY.

My Valentine


My Valentine
Originally uploaded by Jason Archer.

Milenna took this pic of G and I today at her valentine’s day party. I’m not a big believer in V-day or any other of these “Hallmark holidays”. My attitude (preparing ot incur the wrath of women and romantics worldwide) is that I need to show my love and appreciation for my wife every day. Not just on February 14th. But one tone that Micki has set in our marriage together is celebrating. We celebrate every holiday and micro-holiday to the max. I think it’s because the art of celebrating is a lost art. We buy stuff, but rarely do we, as a whole, celebrate. Today I woke up and there was a really nice card and a gift for me in the bathroom from Micki. A gift bag with a new shirt and book with a card for Grace. I countered with some gifts for Micki that I delivered as well as a balloon and special card for G. Sherry today “outed” me as a cynic, and I very well may be (post your feedback, but be gentle), but I found myself feeling not obligated to “get something” for the sheer pressure of the day, but shifting to understanding that small tokens to show my love for my ladies brings joy to my heart when I see Grace’s face light up as I hug her in front of all her friends and say out loud, “Grace, you are my special valentine.” She glows. Last night she made me a home made card with a “roses are red” poem that she wrote. Sweetness. And it’s that kind of sweetness that I celebrate today. More than some candy and flowers.

Grace’s 8Th Birthday Party


Crazy Girls
Originally uploaded by Jason Archer.

A few weeks ago we celebrated Grace’s birthday party at our house. Last year we went to Pizza Beach and had a fun time. See pics or post. This year Grace wanted to do a 70′s disco party and boy did we ever! We decorated the basement of the Shimmy Shack, Uncle Sam provided a high-end disco ball and laser light. We had the stereo blazing and Grace got a karaoke machine. We also borrowed Dance Dance Revolution from the Lukes and the girls got down. We played some games, which were messy and the girls loved it. Had a high-end homemade cake from Micki, and pizza. Then opened presents. Thanks to many of you who sent special messages, cards, and presents to your favorite disco girl. Check out this year’s photo gallery and maybe some video to come sometime soon.